single : Brett Fish

What my Married Friends would like their Single Friends to know – Meet Shana and Carl Kreusch

Hello. I'm Shana, and I have a husband. He's Carl. We haven't been married very long but we are married nonetheless. I'm not really a writer, so I'm not really going to make this sound good or write particularly well, but over the past 2 and a half years of marriage I've been putting together a mental list of things I'd like my single friends to know. Here goes (all harshness unintended): 1) When your [...]

By brettfish|2014-04-25T05:36:32+02:00April 25th, 2014|friends and enemas, marriage, pain and Hope, relationships, shtupidt people, thorts of other people|17 Comments

Getting Naked Later – a book review of my friend Kate Hurley’s book

A little eight-year-old girl was asked what she thought love was. She cocked her head and thought for a little bit. Then she replied, "When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over to paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis. That's what love is." [pg 159, Getting Naked Later] And with that excerpt, i begin the book review of this most [...]

By brettfish|2014-03-24T22:17:20+02:00March 24th, 2014|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized, what i am reading|0 Comments

What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know: Meet Craig Botha

This is Craig's adaptation of someone else's comments: Ten Things Your Single Friends (like me) Are Tired Of Hearing 1) “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking!” This is typically where your advice starts. ”It’ll come along when you least expect it,” is also “You’ll find it when you aren’t looking“ This is a ridiculous and retarded statement. We’re programmed to look for it. It’s in our genetic make-up, God make us this way. That’s [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-20T08:03:59+02:00February 20th, 2014|friends and enemas, inspire-ations, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|5 Comments

What my Single Friends would like their Married Friends to know: Intro

i was 35 when i got married and so i still feel like i have some kind of grasp and authority when it comes to speaking for/with the single community and definitely have a huge heart for them, especially those who are a little older and wanting to be married [as not all of them are - marriage is definitely not the end point finishing line of you-have-made-it'ness although it has too often been presented [...]

By brettfish|2014-02-20T07:59:32+02:00February 20th, 2014|friends and enemas, inspire-ations, marriage, thorts of other people, Uncategorized|11 Comments

Taboo Topics: Singleness – meet Dani Scoville [and a look at Deconstructing Boundaries]

[Dani is a friend that tbV and i met while working with the Simple Way and she currently lives in San Francisco, which is just across the water from us, this is a piece she wrote a year ago which was published in Sojo.net and which she offered to share with us] When my intoxicated friend leaned in to kiss me, I didn’t think I was just the most readily available girl. No, I convinced [...]

By brettfish|2013-04-17T19:52:21+02:00April 17th, 2013|love and chocolate, relationships, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|4 Comments

Taboo Topics: Singleness – meet Kate Hurley [aka The Sexy Celibate]

My friend Jess is a beautiful, single blonde girl who has been a missionary in Italy for 10 years and is the same age as me. One day, an Italian woman, let’s call her Mamma Carmen, came up to her with a little charm necklace that had a picture of a saint on it.“What’s this?” asked Jess. (Cue in accent of Italian mama who doesn’t speak much English) “A necklace for you. A picture of [...]

By brettfish|2013-03-02T18:27:04+02:00March 2nd, 2013|challenging thorts, love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, shtupidt people, thorts of other people|6 Comments

being aware of the deluge in your unique…

i said to my beautiful wife Valerie the other day something along the lines of 'what do people write statuses [stati?] about on Facebook if they are not entering into a relationship or having a baby? [or these days in americaland making some kind of staunchly pro this party or anti that one political statement] as it just seemed like the majority of statuses [stati?] i was reading were about one of those... two things [...]

By brettfish|2012-09-01T14:20:49+02:00September 1st, 2012|activities, and other animals., friends and enemas, local news, marriage, relationships|4 Comments

How to Save a Marriage… before you need to. [part i]

if you are a single person, then embrace that, completely. hope to be married if that is your dream, but be absolutely content with where you are and living in it, til the opportunity arises. don't live where you're not. if you are a married person, then embrace that, completely. be content with what you have, while always striving for more. if you are not constantly working at your marriage, then you may soon discover [...]

By brettfish|2018-12-14T10:08:40+02:00November 8th, 2011|love and chocolate, marriage, relationships, thorts of other people|15 Comments

dating Q & A: where have all the good (christian) men gone? [the email]

i got this email from a friend of mine and because it covers a bunch of relevant issues with regards to christians dating i asked her if she minded if i shared it and answered - or tried to - some of them publically - i will include just the email here and the reply in the following linked blog... Hi Brett, How are you doing? Just warning you in advance, this is quite a [...]

By brettfish|2018-12-14T13:32:42+02:00March 14th, 2011|love and chocolate, relationships, thorts of other people|10 Comments

can't i just enjoy this big thing first?

what is with people and 'the next big thing?' - you've been single forever and you finally get yourself a girlfriend and within a month or two (especially if you're older) people are like, "so, when's the big day?" you get married and within a month or two (way before the plans settle on any kind of one year wedding anniversary preparation) it's the knowing smirks and, "so, kids hey?" and so on, and those [...]

By brettfish|2011-02-12T22:00:35+02:00February 12th, 2011|and other animals., life|9 Comments