I'm single and I love it! Sometimes... Sometimes not so much. Valentine's day has just been and gone and, while it's not an occasion that I've ever taken very seriously, it does bring one's singleness to the forefront of one's mind. I was walking through the shops last Friday (the day before Valentine’s) and saw all the people selling roses and stuff like that. There was a part of me that just wanted to buy [...]
I am a 37 years old single guy. I would point out that I have tried not to be single a few times…. I have had my fair share of relationships in life. I was engaged once too. So technically speaking I am disengaged now (see what I did there) ha ha ha. Before I get into the meaning of things in life for me, I would like to share a bit about me. I [...]
HIS BANNER OVER ME IS SINGLE Last month I was supposed to get married. There was no ring on my finger, no invitations in the mail. But there was a date on a calendar and the seed of a dream that had been planted in my heart many, many months ago. I’d had a plan—we’d had a plan—in a world where I was part of a “we,” in lifetime that doesn’t feel all that long [...]
After last week's fairly quiet week on the internet, this week seems to be right back up there with issues or race and transformation taking centre stage, with a sweet injection of Christmas in between. Here are the blog posts, links and stories that have been catching my attention this week - which one was yours? MOST EXCITING My friend Dalene Reyburn finally launched her book, 'Dragons and Dirt: The Truth about changing the world [...]
10 years ago, I was never going to get married. I was a single mom, had my own house, my own business and my own car. I had the freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted, and with whom I wanted. I was happy. Until one day I wasn’t. I had broken up with a man whom I thought I loved, and I was just so tired of hurting and fighting. Frustrated I [...]
Where do you even begin to describe the real challenges associated with singleness vs. marriage? I run the risk of making myself incredibly vulnerable by the detail I share in this post, but to most of your readers I am a “relative stranger”, so whilst there may be some risk, I believe sharing may benefit some and in turn out-weight the associated risk. I’ve been reading through your, and everybody else’s posts and have found [...]
[a guest post by Sindile Mlingo Vabaza] I will not pretend to have grasped the inherent difficulties in running a country but I think I can confidently assert that if we want not only a free and fair and just South Africa, but one that has clearly engaged it's past and moved into a post-colonial and post apartheid state, we are going to have to be both honest and have intellectual integrity no matter what [...]
One of the most important relationships one can have is friendship. Family is family but you get to choose your friends, and all that. i have a crazy amount of good friends who i thoroughly appreciate and thought it necessary to have some posts looking at how we can make good friends as well as be good friends to those around us - i hope you enjoy: Cheering Section: The Art of Mentoring - I [...]
To be a Dad I’m heading towards 50, a father to a 19yo son Dylan, and an 18yo daughter Brynn. I lost my dad this year and I miss him terribly. I seem to have done a fairly good job of fathering my kids if other people’s unsolicited comments are anything to go by. There are a good few things I regret not having done, but very few I regret doing. Here are some of [...]
i have loved the conversations happening on my blog with regards to matters of Race recently. A lot of the posts are specific to South Africa, but i imagine there are themes, ideas and principles that will translate to other contexts around the world and it will be good to get some outside voices as it were to comment as well. What has been particularly exciting to see has been the spirit of engagement that has taken [...]