relevant magazine : Brett Fish

the breast of intentions: a response to the #ChristianCleavage tag

In the last day of so, i have seen the phrase and hashtag, "Christian Cleavage" showing up all over the internet and so, being a curious guy, went to take a look at what my extended family is up to this time. Turns out it all started [was re-ignited?] when an apparently prominent Christian blogger, Jarrid Wilson, wrote a blog post titled, 'The Problem with Christian Cleavage' that apparently caused so much controversy and mayhem [...]

By brettfish|2015-01-28T23:58:05+02:00January 28th, 2015|challenging thorts, things to wrestle with, thorts of other people, Uncategorized, what i am reading|61 Comments

the Friday FANatic 12/12/2014

From Worst Christian Book covers of 2014 to how to respond to Trolls or other people online you disagree strongly with, to a whole bunch of really helpful, insightful and great articles on race-related things and some reflections on our time at Robben Island, this has been another crazy week of much to read, watch and ingest, and i would hate for you to miss any of it and so i have compiled this Don't-Miss-Out [...]

By brettfish|2014-12-12T04:31:40+02:00December 12th, 2014|activities, adventures, Uncategorized, what i am reading, what i am watching|0 Comments

Lies about Sex: Part IV – Waiting For Marriage Means Guilt-Free Sex

For this final part of my series on lies I believed about sex I want to talk about the false expectation many people are given that because sex is intended for marriage, as soon as you get married you will be able to fully express yourself sexually without experiencing guilt or shame. Of the four things I touched on in my Relevant article, this was the one people seemed to resonate with the most. Many [...]

By brettfish|2014-07-21T20:56:20+02:00July 21st, 2014|marriage, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Lies about Sex: Part III – Sex is for Boys

There is this pervasive myth, particularly prevalent in the evangelical Christian subculture (though I’d argue it’s present in other parts of society too) that boys are sexual and girls (at least good girls) aren’t. In my article for Relevant I called this the lie that “Girls don’t care about sex.” If you are anything like me, you have countless times heard things like “Men think about sex all the time” and “Men are very visual [...]

By brettfish|2014-07-20T22:00:28+02:00July 20th, 2014|relationships, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Lies about Sex: Part I – Physical Contact and Boundaries

The first myth I pointed out in my Relevant article was this idea that “Any and all physical contact is a like a gateway drug to sex.” Growing up, I frequently heard metaphors like, “Don’t start the engine if you aren’t ready to drive the car” used to warn teenagers that any physical contact (including holding hands and kissing) was a slippery slope straight into the jaws of fornication. Let me be clear. There is some [...]

By brettfish|2014-07-17T23:52:26+02:00July 17th, 2014|relationships, Taboo Topics, thorts of other people|0 Comments

Let's talk about Sex: a guest series by Lily Dunn

“I’ve heard people say that growing up as an evangelical Christian meant they never talked about sex. That wasn’t my experience. I grew up in the thick of evangelical purity culture and we talked about sex A LOT. We just spent all of that time talking about how and why NOT to have it. As someone who followed all of the rules and waited until I was married to have sex, I was assured that [...]

By brettfish|2014-07-16T21:31:47+02:00July 16th, 2014|challenging thorts, thorts of other people|0 Comments

time to grow some imagination

this is an article written by shane claiborne for relevant magazine that encourages the church to get creative in their imagination of what a new world could look like - what are you dreaming up?

By brettfish|2011-06-30T19:21:54+02:00June 30th, 2011|challenging thorts, change the world, church, heroes or heroic moments, inspire-ations, thorts of other people|0 Comments

brilliant article on love

this morning i gave a brief talk at somerset college on the difference between God's love and our (worldly) love and it went really well - but then the beautiful val sent me this link to this article on the relevant magazine site which i really think is so toyoda'ly written in terms of really capturing a lot of what it is about... check it out here... and please pass it on - so, so, [...]

By brettfish|2011-02-11T23:25:19+02:00February 11th, 2011|inspire-ations, love and chocolate, relationships|0 Comments